Today I want to explore gift receiving. There are times when people do receive gifts and it's like "oh gosh I don't have something for you oh I should have". It's this sense of debt,
this exchange or sense of debt. If your just receiving the gift only and your not giving something back – whether you receive the gift with gratitude or whether you receive it with a sense of debt.
In the sense of I've been given a gift and "oh my gosh I don't have something to give back! There is an imbalance here because they've give me something and wow I haven't give them something”.
I'm just curious around that - how you do manage that situation. If people are giving you a gift and you are close it is highly likely that they giving it because they care. It's an expression of their care, it's an expression of their love, it's an expression of their friendship call it what you will.
What they want from you is to be to be grateful for the gift. They want you to be accepting off that. They are, they have taken the time, energy and money to find something for you and it's an expression.
And if you're not coming from a space of gratitude - then I'd be curious as to what stops you from doing that. They are showing you that they value you and then I'd be saying "well, so okay, what's that gap for you?".
And I can't say that I've necessarily I’ve got answer about what you should you should be doing. It's just something to look at and think hmmm that's interesting "they are expressing this I'm receiving this and I'm not feeling gratitude and "wow - thanks" and a hug or a kiss or a handshake or whatever is that does it but it is a sense of "I should have something to give back".
So if you've got that it's something to give some thoughts about. And I hope to catch you for day number four where I'm going to go into gifts and I'll talk about something which is very important which is the 5 Love Languages so hope to have you on board.
In the sense of I've been given a gift and "oh my gosh I don't have something to give back! There is an imbalance here because they've give me something and wow I haven't give them something”.
I'm just curious around that - how you do manage that situation. If people are giving you a gift and you are close it is highly likely that they giving it because they care. It's an expression of their care, it's an expression of their love, it's an expression of their friendship call it what you will.
What they want from you is to be to be grateful for the gift. They want you to be accepting off that. They are, they have taken the time, energy and money to find something for you and it's an expression.
And if you're not coming from a space of gratitude - then I'd be curious as to what stops you from doing that. They are showing you that they value you and then I'd be saying "well, so okay, what's that gap for you?".
And I can't say that I've necessarily I’ve got answer about what you should you should be doing. It's just something to look at and think hmmm that's interesting "they are expressing this I'm receiving this and I'm not feeling gratitude and "wow - thanks" and a hug or a kiss or a handshake or whatever is that does it but it is a sense of "I should have something to give back".
So if you've got that it's something to give some thoughts about. And I hope to catch you for day number four where I'm going to go into gifts and I'll talk about something which is very important which is the 5 Love Languages so hope to have you on board.